I’ve learned this the hard way. I’ve always had the mentally of why is this happening to me or what did I do to bring this upon myself. This mindset amplified the experience, making it worse than it actually was. I’ve experienced pain and disappointment whether brought on by me or someone else.
After understanding that humans only experience two emotions which are derived from pain or pleasure. Our actions are usually in response to either pain or pleasure. If we like something, we do more of that. If we do too much, then it becomes unpleasant. Though pain or pleasure we learn what is good for us and what we need to do less of. If something brings us enough pain or pleasure, we make the choice to change.
We can change the way we look at it or we can physically put forth the effort to make the change. Sometimes, it becomes so painful or intolerable that we have no choice but to make a change.
From pain, comes change. From change, comes growth. Growth has taught me that I am in charge and nothing is “happening” to me. I can choose how I feel about the situation and choose how it will or will not affect me.
Once your realize that you are in control and take control of your life, then you’ll realize that painful experiences can be used as lessons or obstacles. You can ask yourself, “what can I learn from this’?
I’ve learned to “let go”.
- To not keep playing the same ‘movie’ in my head of how things should go or should have been
- To let go of beliefs that I should have accomplished this or that I should be this according to society
- To let go of materialistic items since I realize that we will not be able to take them when we “go”
- To let go of how I thought my life should have gone
Once I realized that these are lessons, they became blessings. With these blessings, I’ve learned that the universe has a plan for you. A bigger plan. Just trust the process.
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